Things I know to be true:
It is natural to feel hurt or anger for a short time – it’s normal – there is nothing wrong with you.
You can love.
You can trust.
You can allow yourself to be vulnerable in love.
You can bond.
You can invest yourself in someone or something.
Pain is real. It is okay to allow yourself the gift of feeling it, completely. You don’t have to mask it or rush through it.
Acknowledge all of your feelings – hurt, grief, pain, anger, mistrust, doubts, GUILT, betrayal, insecurity, RELIEF – allowing all these emotions some space and time will help you.
You can endure the pain. You HAVE to endure the pain. It hurts like heck. It is raw. Nothing, I mean nothing or no one will make it hurt any less. Endure it. With time it begins to hurt less. And yes, there will be days when the sting roars back and is almost unbearable. Acknowledge it, again, recognize the antecedent and tread carefully next time, you will be stronger next time (and yes, there will be a next time).
You will heal.
You have friends who love you.
You have family who love you.
You can talk to someone.
You can talk about the pain, the hurt.
Someone will want to listen to you.
Someone will care about you.
Someone will love you more than anything.
Someone will want a lifetime with you.
You are not alone.
ALL that you feel is real.
You have to live. Do something. Get out. Be with friends. Be with family.
Give yourself the gift of time. Time to heal. Time to be good for yourself.
Your challenges do not define you.
Your pain does NOT define you.
Write. Write. Write. – See the truth in your words. See the tears that stain your journal. Get the words out of your head, somehow, get them out.
You can take responsibility for your actions.
You can forgive yourself.
You can learn from your pain.
You can be thankful.
You will grow stronger.
You will be kinder.
You will be more mindful.
You will learn.
You will hope.
You will dream.
You may ask how do you know this to be true? I know this to be true because this is my journey. I am real. I am genuine. I am being honest with myself. I write what I feel. I write what I live. Living with struggles or challenges is different for different people. There is no right way to get through pain (physical or emotional). Each of us will have different reactions. What is important is that you know; YOU ARE NOT ALONE, YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE GOODNESS and this world NEEDS YOU.
Wishing you endless peace, joy & love with all that I am.
-J